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I fear not having kids in the future. Help.

 
 
Reply Wed 26 Aug, 2015 05:30 pm
I really fear of not being a father. I really want to be a father. I know am only 20 most people start familes when they are 23 to probably 26. If I'm not a father by then should I look into sperm banks to freeze it or to donate? I really dont want to donate then my chances of becoming a father are over Sad
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 26 Aug, 2015 05:49 pm
@singlesucks13,
Christ on a cracker, you'll probably be virile into your sixties.

Life doesn't end at age 26.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Wed 26 Aug, 2015 06:17 pm
@singlesucks13,
1. men can produce viable sperm to quite an advanced age i.e. 60+

2. donating sperm doesn't mean you won't produce more sperm unless you're planning to have a vasectomy after donating sperm

3. plenty of people don't start their families until they are in their 30's and 40's

relax
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maxdancona
 
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Reply Wed 26 Aug, 2015 06:19 pm
@singlesucks13,
The average age for a US man to have their first child is 28. I had my youngest child at 38. There is really no rush.
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HesDeltanCaptain
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 07:38 am
@singlesucks13,
Quit obsessing on when other people do things. Happens when it happens or it doesn't. If you're this worried about it my thinking is your interest and desire is about other things than raising children. Some kind of control-thing.
singlesucks13
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 09:45 am
@HesDeltanCaptain,
I want to be a father though.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 10:00 am
@singlesucks13,
You are 20 years old and have decades to become a father.
singlesucks13
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 10:15 am
@ehBeth,
Its because I always wonder of what my future would be.
ossobuco
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 10:29 am
@singlesucks13,
As you've been told, it is silly for you to be worrying about needing to hurry to become a father. Reread people's posts to you.

Secondly, it is generally a good idea that one becomes a mature adult before becoming a father, and maturity develops quite gradually over years.

Third, you sound almost in love with the concept of being a father, which is putting the cart before the horse. The preferred mode is to care deeply for your partner and then, if you both agree, to become parents. Of course, sometimes it happens by mistake to immature people, and that is often a possible lifetime problem for the children.
What is behind this great desire of yours? Do you want to be a children's mentor because you have so much to teach them? Do you want to model yourself on some man you think leads a wonderful life? Whatever your reasons, worry about hurrying is off base.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 10:33 am
@singlesucks13,
One step at a time.

Make friends.

Enjoy soccer.

Find a winter sport.

Meet more people.

Date a few women over the next couple of years.

Fall in love sometime in the future.

Maybe find someone to marry and perhaps have children with.

Don't rush.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 10:34 am
@singlesucks13,
We all wonder.

Some of us are in our 50's, 60's and 70's and still wonder what our future will be like.
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singlesucks13
 
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Reply Thu 27 Aug, 2015 01:31 pm
@ossobuco,
Its because I come from a big family and the oldest of my 5 siblings and really like spending time with them.
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Medusax
 
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Reply Wed 7 Oct, 2015 05:09 pm
@singlesucks13,
My father was 52, almost 53, when I was born. You have time dear... Wink
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