I like a guy with a girlfriend

Find someone else to confide in.

He's being exceptionally unfair to use you as a sounding board for his musings about breaking up with his girlfriend. You are either just a friend to him and nothing more, or he's feeling you out to see if you're interested. Which is really not nice when he is currently in a committed relationship.

This will probably not end well.

To repeat, find someone else to be yourself around.

I'll quote an age-old cliché, "there's plenty of other fish in the sea."

Perhaps he's using you as a therapist? Not good!

He's giving you attention which can feel good; however, his attention is not sincere..as in he is NOT (or more accurately shouldn't be) looking to develop a ROMANTIC relationship. He could be a player or just a harmless flirt. Try to find an unattached guy to explore possibilities with. Or someone who is and cannot be emotionally unavailable.

And from here he will tell you how they have not been having sex and she just doesn't meet his needs, all the while he continues to stay in the relationship because, well, he does not want to hurt her. (Oh wait, he already said that.) Then he will somehow carve out time to see you outside of work and try to convince you to bed him while he figures out how to break things with his current girlfriend, which of course will take him a long time to figure out since he does not want to hurt her.

We've heard this story multiple times on here from women who believe the guy and get intimately involved and then cannot figure out why he stays with his girlfriend.

Save yourself a lot of trouble and stop flirting and being a sounding board to someone who is in a relationship.

Guys with girlfriends always look better to other girls.

Life is about experiences and in that learning. So you've learnt you "can" converse well with the opposite sex finally. That's the lesson in this. You've hidden for too long, don't mistake that for "oh, he likes me, I like him, pfttt about the girlfriend, he's going to dump her anyway". If that occurs, imagine her heart? You don't want to be a part of that.

If he breaks up with her, he has baggage in any event and his heart can't jump over to someone else, it never does and he'll also look at you as, "she" was "ok" with the fact I had a girlfriend, that's not marriage material, she could jump to the next guy as well.

If you look at it without those rose coloured glasses you will see a lot clearer.

I don't know why all this hate.

As a guy from my point of view: I can tell a lot of guys are sincere. If he said what he said there is a chance he meant it and maybe you have open chance? Just carry on with him and see where it turn to? But do not rely just on this one guy, that would be fatal mistake. First he will think you are not so good when he's your only goal, second, you'll become emotionally attached and eventually hurt, third, always increase your chances with more tries.

hmm... does it make sense?

Me neither. A2K has a jaundiced view of love in general. Maybe it's the average age: most of us don't remember what it's like. Maybe it's just puritanism. Whatever the reason, the standard response to a "does (s)he love me?" post here is always: "no"; "find another guy/girl", or "get therapy"...

I suppose they truly think that Elah -- and dozens of other people who came here with butterflies in their stomach only to get chided by A2Kers -- is better off fearing men forever than confiding to one, or even making love to one, especially one who would not be an absolutely perfect gentleman all around... Elah just needs to find the charming prince. Easy as pie. Or maybe see a specialist.

Elah,

Back off from him.

You have a crush on him, you want more. He is responding to this flirting, half-way. He is not free to really be flirting with anyone.

Keep your distance and let him work out his relationship with his GF. WHEN HE IS FREE, then make your move.

You don't want to be responsible for him breaking up with his GF. He needs to do that himself.

Hahaha! Yes, what you say is true. Just reading comment above!

but frankly, compared to other forums this one is really OK I would say. In relative measure. Just recently I registered for a very brief moment on eNotAlone - oh-my-god!

Reading Olivier's reply... Hahaha!

Sorry for poking my nose around, but why such blame? She is just flirting. Flirting is not immoral. I believe it is only natural to find best partner one can. If she is better choice for him, and previous relationship does not already work, why keeping back? I am not saying she should ruin relationship intentionally, THAT would be bad, but just making a future possibility is right as hell.