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Mon 10 Nov, 2014 04:47 pm
I'm nearly 18 and I've never even nearly been in a relationship despite my best attempts. It's hard to phrase this without sounding slightly arrogant but... Whenever I talk to my 'crush' I'm very nice and caring, always make them laugh, a little cheeky etc too. I have a social life that is as active as any other normal persons, I'm fairly 'cool' (play guitar, gigs/festivals, dress well etc) and quite smart, and whilst not particularly good looking I'm not so unattractive for it to be a problem. Basically me and the various people I've liked over the years have always got on really well and they've always liked me as a person loads but we have ALWAYS ended up just breing really good friends after I express my feelings or ask them out on a date.
Am I doing something wrong or have I just been incredibly unlucky??
Would appreciate any sorry of comment because I'm really finding it a bit ****
@skinsella434,
Probably just unlucky.
Do you come on too strong? Misread signals, or kind of manufacture them in your head when they're not really there? That kind of thing can happen. Hang in there; it'll happen.
How about not going after a "crush", but rather just a nice person that you know or want to get to know better.
There are probably lots of people around you that you could move into something more than just friendship, but you are so focused on your crushes that you can't see them.
Here is my advice. Walk around town and seek out women you find attractive, or would consider having a relationship with. Single women without escorts or a male friend clinging to them. Walk up politely and say "hello miss, how about we thumb-wrestle for a kiss?".. be warned that 95% will tell you to buzz off, but I'm willing to bet that if you do this for 4-5 hours, you will get a kiss. When you receive a really passionate kiss from someone, ask if they would like to go on a date, have dinner, etc. If you really just want to get laid, just be like "hey miss, wanna go bang?" 99% will say "go bang yourself" sooner or later, one will take you up on the offer. WEAR PROTECTION!
@tedjames,
tedjames wrote:
Here is my advice. Walk around town and seek out women you find attractive, or would consider having a relationship with. Single women without escorts or a male friend clinging to them. Walk up politely and say "hello miss, how about we thumb-wrestle for a kiss?".. be warned that 95% will tell you to buzz off, but I'm willing to bet that if you do this for 4-5 hours, you will get a kiss. When you receive a really passionate kiss from someone, ask if they would like to go on a date, have dinner, etc. If you really just want to get laid, just be like "hey miss, wanna go bang?" 99% will say "go bang yourself" sooner or later, one will take you up on the offer. WEAR PROTECTION!
I'm willing to bet if someone did this for 4 or 5 hours, they would have been picked up by the police. More like 100% will tell you to buzz off, and rightfully so.
@skinsella434,
Ah 18...
You're picking the wrong girls. The ones that feel safe with you but pick the bad guys.. That's the impression you give across I'm a good guy full of fun and laughs and play music.
They need to crush on you. I'm not saying be a bad guy far from it but if I remember correctly at that age, I lusted after those I couldn't have and from all the advice I've given to "youngins" same thing...
Be funny friendly... But make them guess what makes you tick... I get the feeling you give away everything at once to them... Puts them in a safe zone with you
@FOUND SOUL,
Quote:You're picking the wrong girls
Lets take the other side of the coin:
you are the wrong kinda guy. In ten or fifteen years they might consider dating you, if they want to settle down, but now is the time to live.
nice.considerate.manners.proper. deferential. wity.======BORING!
You need to light their panties on fire. That is a completely different game from what you think getting the girl is all about.
@hawkeye10,
He's 18 and your asking him to be a pick up artist....
I could have written that but how does that help him?
Being a bit aloof will do the same thing whilst allowing him to be himself without having to do what "guys" do to get laid.. And he's not trying to do that he wants a girlfriend.
@FOUND SOUL,
Quote:He's 18 and your asking him to be a pick up artist...
If he wants quality absolutely. He might as well learn now that if he wants the good ones he needs to work to make it happen. Guys need to know what makes girls go weak and the knees, what makes girls turn off their heads and turn on the lust, and most importantly he must know what makes his target tick. Then he needs to give her what she wants. Not what she says she want, what she wants. Then he gets what he wants.
I know that the feminsts have a big problem with this. Sorry. Talk to God not me, I had nothing to do with creating humans.
@skinsella434,
Some here are advising volume over quality. Some of my guy friends swear by this method. They say eventually someone will bite. But--if you desire a particular person that's a different ball game...
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