@minne,
minne wrote:
... I am 24 and I have to fall in love.
No, ya don't.
BTW keep up with that attitude, and you never will. See, here's the deal. Love isn't a generic. It isn't that you're at a stage in your life, or you hit certain requirements or whatever. It certainly helps to be out and among people, particularly people who are looking and have similar interests and are generally within your wheelhouse of attraction.
You meet several of them, not just one. You hang out. You watch movies. You consume meals. You kiss and flirt. You have arguments. You deal with communications expectations and what happens out in public.
Sages refer to this behavior by its ancient term:
dating.
Much of dating ultimately goes nowhere. You just aren't compatible in the long run, or the attraction dies off, or they do something to alienate you (or vice versa) or you grow in separate directions or whatever. Sometimes it's truly awful, it's incipient (or even full-blown) mental or physical or sexual abuse, and you feel like you've dodged a bullet.
But every now and then it turns into something more.
It doesn't happen when you rack up a specific number of Frequent Dater Miles(TM). It doesn't happen when biological clocks scream in your ear, either.
It happens when people who care about each other realize that they want to be in each other's lives. It happens when they want that other person in their life, too.
So drop the idea of a generic 'need to be in love'. You don't need to be in love any more than you need to be in Poughkeepsie. But if you have a real person you're in love with? Then yeah, you need to be in love. With
them.
Possibly even in Poughkeepsie.
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