@countofmontecristo,
countofmontecristo wrote: Though far more dramatic and oh so cliché, perhaps beating the **** out of the guy might make me feel a little better (he knew all about me and that I was coming out to work here....as such I believe him to be very deserving of at least an un-gentlemanly talking to)
here is the thing. he owed/owes you nothing. he wasn't in a relationship with you. blaming him is going to go nowhere. people in the community are going to think you're a dick for taking it out on him.
the person you have an issue with is her. she's the one who crapped out on your relationship. she was an asshole and it probably feels really awful to have been totally **** on by her.
so if you want to beat someone up, it's probably her and that's not going to be acceptable. understandable but not acceptable.
you can choose to deal with her directly and honestly, or avoid everything and everyone to do with her (tricky in a very small community but possible).
My approach would be to be very honest about it. If she approaches you, privately or in public, let her know what you think about her and how she treated you. The one possible joy for you in this approach is that you could make her very uncomfortable by simply being honest about the situation anytime you're asked about it. It's really the only consequence you can make her face. Incredible discomfort.