@donna413s,
Your husband is immature and he knows it.
The thought of becoming a father is scaring the **** out of him and that's why he doesn't want to spend quality time with you.
It just triggers his fear.
The arguments and put downs are symptomatic.
I know because I was the epitome of your husband for 11 years.
Go to a counselor; alone if he won't go.
This is about YOU and the rest of your life.
Don't be cornered by the " Biological Clock"
Nowadays, the ability to be a mother are not diminished by your age.