Tue 13 Aug, 2013 10:49 am
When my boyfriend watches porn he'll watch it for around 8-10 hours straight, but will only do it when he's on drugs, he was even doing it sometimes whilst I was there as well, it's like he gets in his own little world... I wouldnt mind if it were only a couple of hours but what he does seems really excessive..Please help I ve tried a couple of things but he doesn't think it's a problem, he's 31 as well
@Sandy6211,
Common sense says you should fire him. Next?!
@Sandy6211,
WHY would you stay with a man who is a drug addict and a porn addict?
Girlfriend, get out of there!!!
@PUNKEY,
PUNKEY wrote:
WHY would you stay with a man who is a drug addict and a porn addict?
Girlfriend, get out of there!!!
But he loves her.
She's #3 on the list right after drugs and porn.
@Sandy6211,
The hell with the porn it the drugs that would be the first concerns.
Get rid of him.........
Leave this jerkwad deadbeat. You will sooner or later, do it now.
Obviously, Sandy is just pulling our legs.
If "just a couple of hours" of porn viewing would be okay with her...why would a few more be such a problem?
@Sandy6211,
He's not going to change (or be able to change) his addictions to please you.
If you don't feel you can tolerate the 8 - 10 hours of porn then you have to decide if you are willing to stay in a relationship with him the way he is.
If you can tolerate him the way he is, you stay with him - and don't bug him about his addictions. If you can't tolerate it you leave - no promises to return in the future etc.
@ehBeth,
Quote:He's not going to change (or be able to change) his addictions to please you.
That is an over broad statement as men have been known to do a lot to keep a woman they care about.
@BillRM,
Changing body chemistry to suit another person seems like a lot to ask - and there is no guarantee it would work.
He is who he is.
@ehBeth,
People get clean for a lot of reasons all the time so to said once an addict always an addict is kind of misleading.
Be that as it may there are a lot of men in the world so getting rid of him and replacing him with someone without those problems seems a no brainer.
@Sandy6211,
Sandy6211 wrote:
When my boyfriend watches porn he'll watch it for around 8-10 hours straight, but will only do it when he's on drugs, he was even doing it sometimes whilst I was there as well, it's like he gets in his own little world... I wouldnt mind if it were only a couple of hours but what he does seems really excessive..Please help I ve tried a couple of things but he doesn't think it's a problem, he's 31 as well
I'm thinking with this kind of usage/schedule, this prize is either not employed or is pretty seriously underemployed.
Um, why are you with him again?
@Frank Apisa,
Frank Apisa wrote:
Obviously, Sandy is just pulling our legs.
If "just a couple of hours" of porn viewing would be okay with her...why would a few more be such a problem?
That was the first thing I thought when I saw the thread title.
What exactly would be the proper amount of time to watch porn?
@chai2,
When there's a porn movie on, I find myself checking out the background, saying things like "This is one of those David Weekley model homes." or "Look, it's the break room at a Target"
It's also interesting to note the art on the walls, or whether or not they throw a sheet over the couch they're "doing it" on.
@chai2,
and the makeup on the men?
@Ragman,
And you and Chai have noticed all this just from watching 3 minutes of porn?
@Sandy6211,
Ok so he is a horny stoner. Try and get him to cut back on the weed, I take it that this is the form of drug you are talking about, and in return he gets the real thing. Or start watching with him it may weird him out enough to turn it off. Though with my boyfriend that just turned him on more and we ended up reenacting some fantasy related scenes about the flat, it was actually fun.
Sorry for the tmi Lexy
@Sandy6211,
Sandy6211 wrote:
When my boyfriend watches porn he'll watch it for around 8-10 hours straight, but will only do it when he's on drugs, he was even doing it sometimes whilst I was there as well, it's like he gets in his own little world... I wouldnt mind if it were only a couple of hours but what he does seems really excessive..Please help I ve tried a couple of things but he doesn't think it's a problem, he's 31 as well
Move on...don't try to fix him.
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