It is all nonsense and that is why people come up with so many rules. If a god actually cared about dancing or doing some activity then it is petty. Just the fact that your mother gets kicked out for getting pregnant just proves that christians really don't care about people. They are the furthest from empathy for humanity. Why anyone would want to follow such a negative world view always baffles me. They teach that every human is wicked by nature and not worthy of anything good. They shun anything that is positive in life if you are trying to enjoy it and expect pain or suffering to be a blessing. It truly is a mental plague.
You can't lump all Christians into one group. Well I suppose you can - but I think that is unjust.
Some use religion - just as others use education and pedigree to distinguish themselves. It is often used to make them feel better about themselves by raising themselves and debasing others. That would be the reason for all of the rules. It's pharisaical. Anyone who would not love folks in spite of his or her failures and cast them out is obviously not seeing his or her own self clearly.
I have often wondered what name I can call myself that would distinguish myself from others who would call themselves Christians but not use the basis of their faith to love others well. Goodness knows I love to have fun, I love to dance, I love to drink and eat and laugh. Am I mean sometimes? Oh yeah. Am I judgmental? Unfortunately. I am absolutely imperfect and a cause for others to wonder about Christians. But - I do believe that there was someone who loved enough to sacrifice everything so that I would have hope. I do believe in the mysteries of the Bible. I do believe that when Jesus died he rose again. And I believe that there is more to this life than just living and dying. And yes, the Old Testament is tough. I do not understand the wars and killing that seem to go on even now. I will not debate it .
I am a lunatic in many peoples eyes - unreasonable and ridiculously illogical. An idiot.
And I am okay with it.
There are many that are like me - but we don't make it onto the TV because we are not controversial. We do not hate because of the ones who choose a different path than us. We do not believe in having to be right. Most of the arguing you see is because many times Christians feel they have to make others believe what they say is true. I do not believe that. If I believe that God is God and all powerful, then there is no reason for me to argue or to strongarm - or hate others because they do not believe the way I do. If you think I am wrong - I am okay with that too.
All of this to say - BrianaMonique must find her own way. I pray that she finds peace and a group who will love and accept her as she is. She is a precious child of God and well loved.