Am I gay or straight??? Im Confused!!!

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You may find it weird but im 11 and im starting to get gay feelings. I was at camp a week or two ago (one week canp) and my counseler would always put on a movie so my friends from the cabin would always come up. So one night only one of my friends came up and this time, he came a bit closer to me. At first i was like wtf but then i actually started to like it. For the past 2 weeks i've been searching websites about other peoples stories or websites that i could post my very own. Finnaly i found able2know that had others relating to my situation. And the boy that layed down next to me had mentioned that he had a gay friend and that the gay liked him but now im kinda starting to like him. I dont like the naked type of gay but more the living in a house kissing and more like friends rather than a relasionship.

Although, i do like girls. I've had girlfriends. Two that i really loved but the others they liked me. I also want to be known as a straight man when i grow up but i want to know what it feels like to kiss a guy.

I am also afraid of what my parents will say if i tell them that im gay (if i am) .
I would appreciate it if you could comment and help me out, tell me if i am gay or if you have any suggestions etc.

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[+3] - joefromchicago - 07/25/2012[quote="AmIGay"]I dont like the naked type of gay but more the living in a house kissing and more like friends rather than a relasionship.[/quote] Have you ever considered the...

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@AmIGay,

AmIGay wrote:

I dont like the naked type of gay but more the living in a house kissing and more like friends rather than a relasionship.

Have you ever considered the priesthood?

The fact is, you're only eleven. These feelings don't make much sense to you, but then a lot of things don't make much sense to you. After all, you're only eleven. You may be gay. You may be straight. You may be bisexual. You may just be confused. These sorts of things tend to work themselves out by the time you get older.

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@joefromchicago,

I agree with Joe. You don't have to make a decision now, especially if you're confused. If you absolutely have only ever been attracted to boys, and have no interest in girls, then that's one thing. If you're confused, though, just wait and see a bit. Don't freak one way or the other. (You don't seem that freaked though, which is good.) Probably no need to tell your parents anything yet.

The other question is what "attracted" means, though. My daughter is 11 also and has a hard time with defining that. She has a lot of good friends who are boys, and her female friends are always asking her if she has a "crush" on this boy or that boy, and it's not always obvious to her. There are boys she likes a lot, and wants to spend time with, and wouldn't mind hugging or whatever -- but is that a crush?

She currently thinks kissing anyone at all is kind of gross.

I think you're probably a bit further along, but the "naked type of gay" might be roughly in the same category -- when you think of naked type of anyone, is that kind of gross too?

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@AmIGay,

Only 11?
If so you have a few to many years of unsettling arousal ahead of you, as time goes your interests will become more clear stay true to your feelings, this is very frightening when your intimate interests and feelings differ from the social norm. Feelings are neither right or wrong they are just feelings and they are yours. If you are 11 give it time. When and if there comes a time and you can still not face your folks alone, there are many sources of support and counseling best done in person than by others that have had to do the same thing. In my opinion a better alternative to annonomus posts on the Internet

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First of all, I am extremely straight, but I always study poeple and their behavioralisms and in my oppinion there is no hard line between gay and straight. There are people who are naturally inclined to being more one way than the other, and there are people who choose to be more one way than the other, but it's all just points on a scale. Secondly, I think that at 11 you are too young to be making life-altering dicisions (I know some whom are much older and still question themselves) so forget about exclusivity, don't limit yourself to anyone elses ideas, and just do what comes naturally. Live and let live, these things in life will sort themselves out. [But seriously would you really choose Orlando Bloom over Liv Tyler? some things just baffle me]

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Don't confuse being aroused with being gay. Laying on the bed with someone can result in arousal. Move if it makes you uncomfortable.

It is not unusual to have crushes on same sex friends at your age.

You seem to express yourself very well. Just relax about this and there's no need to make any "decision" about your partner preference at this time.

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@AmIGay,

Ok My Friend.
Here is nothing to worry. Because what you are you know better . You ca n tell him without hesitation.You have no need to afraid of what your parents will say if i tell them that im gay . I think they are your parents and they will accept as you are.

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