I am told that a man in love shows it more than says it. He will devote his time to you. Like sometimes choosing you over a guys night or going shopping with you when its not his favorite thing in the world. He will text you all the time and ask you things of substance not just 'hey what sup'. He will fix things for you, buy things, surprise you and just in general go out of his way to show affection.
But, I think quite accurate at the beginning of a relationship.. But, it's also based on how you make him feel.
Honestly, I personally think a man in love, especially a man newly in love is one of the most adorable things in the world.
2 and a half years later and he's still doing all the above...
Anyway, there is a very special someone who I have been seeing and I am falling for him fast, if not already completely fallen head over heels. So, Ive got that part straight, but I'm not sure about him. He does the stereotypical adorable things men in love do. He acts like a lead actor out of a romantic film. He does all those cute, romantic things people tell you are unrealistic and not to expect from ur man. At first, I was like--this is great!! Then I realized he has more or less been like this since we met and after I realized that it got me to thinking....maybe thats just the way he is. Maybe he is just a romantic, affectionate, guy at heart and is has little to do with being in love.
Don't confuse yourself. In time as you get to know him you will ascertain if that is him by nature, or, if it's that lust, honeymoon stage.. Ask yourself though if he is this way by nature, then do you not see that he is passionate by nature? And, therefore, he will always be passionate about you, romantic and affectionate.. Love "has" to play a part in that... Or there is no passion.
Since we first met he has always liked to cuddle and lay in bed with me, he texts me every morning (and I absolutely love that I get to wake up to something from him....it makes makes me smile every time), if I miss him and ask him to Skype with me late at night hell do it even if he's really tired, he apologizes when he is wrong (for me this is a big deal because a lot of men I know do not like to seem 'weak' and apologize...and like to blame women for everything), etc, etc--all these great things. This is all absolutely wonderful but him being like this since we met makes me wonder if this is just the type of guy he is regardless of who he is with.
I think he's smitten and I think you are over reading things.. If you like what he does then isn't that what you were after in a Man?
Things started off FULL BLAST with us. There was no gradual increase of affection. Dont get me wrong, things do just get better and better. Our connection deepens all the time. If we were on full blast before were like on super durbo turbo speed now. We have crazy energy between the two of us and it feels incredible. Literally, like nothing I have ever felt before.
You be in love and is scared
I have never been in love.
Yes you have, now.....
Its nothing I am ashamed of I actually embrace it. It makes me know that when I actually ready to say it to someone it will be amazingly sincere, sacred, and special.
Dont get me wrong, Ive dated ALOT of guys so its not for lack of experience that I have never been in love.
I am just not that stereotypical socialized woman that feels any encounter with a guy has to end in love or mean something 'special'.
I have always been a go with the flow type. And thats how I prefer it, it makes me feel free and uncomplicated.
So anyways, me feeling this way about a guy...so uncharacteristic makes me feel its the real thing.
But who knows...its too soon to tell. I would like some insight on what you think of the guy though.
Basically the question is, If a guy in love acts in all these wonderful ways I expressed in my first paragraph....and there is a guy who has acted that way since he first met you...does that mean he is not in love and thats just how he is?
From experience? And, I be alot older than you, naturally been through lust, been through honey moon stages, been through ahh na, not it... If he is the same as he was when you met, you can bet he is smitten and I can tell that you are in love.. So, stop over -analyzing...go with it and enjoy it...and be happy.
You know we meet people in life.. For a reason, a season or a lifetime.
We don't have crystal balls? We can't ascertain if "he is it" until WE KNOW... And, you will know.. Just keep going down the road you are going and don't rock the boat.. Love being in-love...