No FM, I get what you're saying. In fact me and Set have had over a year of detente. I think he's one of the most knowledgable people on the site, and I enjoy nothing better than exchanging ideas with him when we're on civil terms.
Where we go wrong in my opinion is that he gives and takes grievous offense, but he doesn't own when he starts it or when he's wrong. He came into a thread I started and delivered his judgement that I was obsessing about the subject of the thread.
The thread I started about sexual orientation was getting some interesting replies, but in his opinion I was "obsessing about things that are nobody's business".
I protested that I thought it was an unfair and hasty characterization, and that he wouldn't like it (and would tell me to **** off) if I came on one of his threads and called him obsessed.
I stand by all that - I think he was wrong, or at the very least it was debatable. But he called my reply "vicious" and it got nastier and nastier.
I call him nasty because he delivers the lowest blows the earliest in a discussion of anyone I know. I say he's self-deluded because in his eyes he never ever does anything that requires apology, so I guess he really believes he's never wrong. And I call him a gasbag because he will continue with an exchange of crap forever - he will not back off, he will not be the first to shut the **** up about something.
I may have a thin skin, but it is no thinner than Setanta's. And I simply demand the same respect that he expects.