Chai is wise here, as have been others.
I see your sense of self is all caught up here. Whether it is about your attachment to her and how you can get her back, or your dismissal of her, you are still in her lasso, horse being pulled.
Move along. We know it can be hard, but the world is a big place and there are so many people to learn about and connect with. As you learn about them - I don't mean that condescendingly, just a comment from someone older - you will learn more about yourself and what is satisfying with friends and lovers. The future you won't put up with this kind of stuff.
Adds, it also seems as if you wanted to control her, fix her. Hard to change people and an iffy matter to try controlling others.