How do you handle technical maturity far surpassing emotional maturity online?
It's a good question. So far I've avoided it, by keeping the kid off of Facebook. She's fine with that so it hasn't really been an issue so far. We just had a talk about it and I was kind of surprised -- she said that she is in touch with people she wants to talk to via texting, Facetime, etc., and she doesn't feel any particular need to go beyond that.
I don't monitor Facetime at all, but I do monitor her texts -- she knows that I will look at stuff, it's part of the deal if she has a phone.
I don't do a lot of monitoring, haven't caught anything of concern yet.
One other thing I do is keep an eye on some of her peers on Facebook, just to see what the zeitgeist is, and to kind of prepare for when she eventually starts with Facebook. There haven't been any big surprises, except maybe positive -- there are a lot more straightforward/ nice interactions than I'd expect. (Not enough privacy though, I can see a lot of stuff without friending people.)
Anyway, while this isn't a big issue now I know it's going to get bigger. So it's something I've thought about, not a lot of conclusions.
Sozlet seems to be (so far) one of those kids that responds well to trust -- trust her, and she proves herself trustworthy. So I'm probably going to give her a fair amount of freedom. But at the same time, I don't want to be naive. And will probably keep tabs on things until... that's the tricky part, haven't decided yet. At least a few years into the future, so will revisit then.