guy talk- does this cross the line?

While I can say honestly yes for me that it theoretically could happen, that doesn't change how you're feeling. He and you need to talk and work on building back some of the trust that is lost. He may not have EVER cheated on you, however he should try to focus his energy elsewhere. He does have the right to let his mind wander.

Perhaps also you should not be snooping on his phone. What you did also indicates a lack of trust.

We've had trust issues before on this same subject and broke up over it. We got back together 2 months ago and I wanted to see if he kept his promise that stuff like this would stop. Not sure how often it occurs... The odds of me catching it both times is slim. He sounds sincere every time he apologizes, but I feel like he won't change his focus.

Talk is cheap = does not amount to much.

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This is just guy talk. I assume you are teenagers, right? If this is all you found on his phone you are fine.

Communication is the key, there are personal boundries that both need to take into consideration and work towards.

If this is your second attempt to have him stop doing something you personally don't like (and bare in mind, you can not afford to be in-secure in a relationship, as it almost always fails from doing such things as you are, snooping which then poses questions in your mind that are either true or false only you will never know until something factual happens, therefore, you will always wonder and therefore, your relationship will always be under stress,) and he hasn't acknowledged it as being something that really bothers you, therefore stopped it, as to why you broke up, then will he? Probably not.

Having said that, it is a boys thing so should he stop? If it is only words?

You have to discuss what you like and don't like, why, reason why, and see if it is really your in-security that is the problem not so much his words, or if it is your morals and therefore, you can't accept that type of behaviour in which case, you have to question your relationship.

Stop snooping.
Really.
If you don't trust him, leave him.

If you feel like you can't trust any male, start shopping for a psychologist.

Joe(you'll need one. --No more Snooping)Nation

I wouldn't trust you. Period. It was a private conversation on his phone. You broke the trust, he didn't.

Men his age have sexual thoughts VERY often - like every 15 seconds. His mistake was writing down everything he thinks. Texting like that can even show up on his or someone else's Facebook acct. So that should be of concern to him.

But the big issue is why you are peeking at his private texts. What has he done or said that makes you feel you need to check up on his private life?

i say some pretty raunchy stuff sometimes too. I have no problem making sexual jokes with my friends and god help an attractive man that walks by us while we are chatting. He and his behind will be the subject of our conversation every which way for quite a while.

I would never cheat.

What I SAY does not indicate what I would DO.

humans are attractive.
if you are jealous of him watching another girl you have some issues you need to deal with. He isnt blind, do not expect him to act as such. There is no problem with noticing, just a problem with acting..