(jealous sigh) I wish I had your high school experience! Haha!
I don't know. Schools okay sometimes. I have some really good friends and they look out for me because they're older and everything but I still get picked on every now and then. I know it's not as bad as what some kids go through but it's still hurtful and it sucks bigtime. And everybody pushes too much in high school. The teachers seem to expect me to know everything just because I skipped a couple grades. One teacher in particular actually, he seems to love to call on me when he knows that I don't know the answer and then makes some stupid comment when I say the wrong thing. And my dads always dissapionted when I make anything less than a B. And my twin sister had a higher GPA than me last year so I kinda feel competitive about it , ya know. She seems to do better than me in everything all of a sudden. It's really annoying and frustrating and I just HATE school!
Well, atleast I got that off my chest. Sorry, I had to vent
You skipped a COUPLE of grades?! When-as in, how old were you when you were accelerated through these grades? What grades did you skip?
I don't blame you for feeling pushed. I think I would have found that incredibly hard and disruptive on a lot of levels - but especially socially.
I think the reason school was a good experience for me was because age wise and size wise I was right in the middle of my peer group and so emotionally, socially, academically and in every other way I fit right in.
I wasn't the smartest person in the class - this kid named Lloyd was and everyone knew it - but I was up there in the rankings enough to feel competent and good about myself without being labeled a 'nerd' or a 'geek' like poor Lloyd was. But more power to him - he was presenting papers on aerodynamics to NASA when he was in highschool. Lord only knows what he went on to do.
Gracie - every time you tell me another story - I am amazed. Our experiences in some ways are so similar. I didn't have a twin sister, but I had a sister who is seventeen months younger than me, so she was in the grade below me. Her name is Sarah and she was just a different personality than me.
I was (and still am) sort of fun-loving and relaxed and she was and still is really, really, really responsible and yeah - sort of rigid. To give you an example, today I'm going to a blue's festival and I just got an e-mail from her in which she told me she's going to the work day at her church
Again - more power to her - but I couldn't spend my Saturday like that after working all week and she does and has her entire life.
Well, even though she was younger, she was bigger-boned and everyone always thought we were twins because we were about the same size and we both had really, really dark-brown - almost black hair and we both wore glasses.
And as my father used to love to remind me - we were both equal in intelligence - only Sarah ALWAYS atudied and worked, worked, worked hard enough to make straight A's whereas I was happy to get a B now and then if it meant I could have some fun on the side as well.
He'd say, 'You're just as smart as Sarah - she just works harder. You could get the grades she gets...'
I'd say, 'I don't want the grade she gets because I don't want the life she wants- I'm happy with my grades and my life.'
And even though she was the same age as her peers, she had a hard time socially. She was/is a REALLY nice person, but she sort of intimidated people because everyone could see how smart she was. I remember being at the drive-in once and I was talking to this guy who was in her year/class and he said, 'You're Sarah's sister? and when I told him I was he said, 'She seems alright, but she's so damn smart she makes the rest of us look like a bunch of monkeys.'
She set the standard in every class and the teachers always held her up as an example. I think this set her apart and made socializing harder for her.
It was the same way for Lloyd - I remember that.
I mean - I graduated with a 3.7- and she graduated with a 4.0. I got lots of respect for her in a lot of ways - but I couldn't BE her!
So I didn't even compete.
My senior year - we were in the same French, math and science classes. She did better than I did in Science and I did better than she did in French. We were about equal in Math.
But my senior year I took Ancient Studies, Medival Life and Lit and pottery (a bunch of electives I was interested in) and she took ANOTHER year of math and science.
More power to her. She got into the college she wanted to and so did I. She's had a good life and so have I. She's a school social worker now. I'm a teacher.
She studied harder - and got what she needed that way. I had fun and got what I needed that way.
I'm so glad I was a kid when I was. I think the competitive 'you have to be the best in every way in every aspect of your life' bullshit they feed kids now is about 1,000 times worse than it was when I was a kid.
And I think it's horrible and damaging.
Good luck to you Gracie. I'll be pulling for you - not to WIN and BE PERFECT - but to be HAPPY.