In my eyes, my husband totally does not understand me, which makes me often feel
he does not respect me at all. It is a terrible feeling for me.
How about you?
Husbands are not mind readers, so unless you have verbalized what you want, then don't expect him to "understand.'
My SIL drives me crazy when she tries to "read" her husband's thoughts and actions. She makes assumptions based on ridiculous things such as a "look" or even a "grunt." She gets irritated with him because he does not meet her "needs" but I know she does not express them well to him.
It's all about communication.