Well I don't exactly disagree with Chai - you are a player and an ass in this one area
of your life. If I remember right, in other respects there's a lot going for you.
As for the love of your life, I'm guessing that you treat her too nicely. Is it wrong to treat a girl nicely? Not at all, so long as you are doing so from the depth of who you are (rather than for any feelings you have for her - which because she isn't returning the feeling, implies you are only doing so for personal gain) - which means you are also going about creating your life, making it what you want, and achieving what you like and want.
Let me put it to you this way - are you reacting to her, or are you creating reactions in her? If you find you are constantly reacting to 'your feelings of her', then you are still reacting to her. How about creating some reactions in her? Creating some states (of mind/emotions) in her? Creating your own life (which achieves much of the aforementioned), and creating that a better life for others (social proof reinforces anything she feels or can feel for you).
Compassion for humanity from the depths of your soul - turned in her direction, rather than from your feelings of love for her, can be quite enthralling (as can any other traits of spirit - love, light heartedness, warmth etc), and the obvious power of you creating your world the way you want it can be quite intoxicating to women.
After that, coupled with kindness...
By the way - why are you doing this to yourself? Just throwing this thought out there - are you in control of your own life? Can you obtain what you want? Will she make it all better?
And what, by the way, do you want from a relationship? How do you want to be treated? What sort of closeness/intimicacy/friendship/communications do you want? Can she provide it? Is she likely to provide it (given the type of guys she's attracted to) ?