Welcome to A2K, SandiAlaska.
What a horrible ordeal you have been through, both the sexual assault itself and your re-victimization by the military justice process. Although it is painful to read your account, it is, unfortunately, all too common that rape victims are put through such humiliating experiences when they try to seek justice and have their rapists held accountable, and I think you have done a brave and important thing by continuing to speak out about it.
The question before you now is what are you, the reader of this, willing to do to prevent rape and sexual assaults in the lives around you?
I challenge our society to shift the notion of rape and sexual assault as an individual’s issue to a community crisis. I challenge our society to stop treating victims as criminals but rather as human beings that deserve to be treated with dignity. I challenge our military to examine their judicial system and truly uphold that victims are to be treated with fairness and respect. I challenge the media to use their influence to properly address rape culture. I challenge us all to become more aware and educated about issues surrounding rape and sexual assaults.
Well, one thing this reader has done was to start this thread, and to try to keep it focused on the problems inherent in rape culture, and victim blaming. A great deal of information has been disseminated in this thread which I hope has raised awareness. It has certainly raised by own awareness.
When I started this thread, I was merely struck by what I thought was a clever public service message that made a point about rape laws and victim blame in a novel way--I never anticipated that the topic would generate such controversy or unleash such negative attitudes toward both rape victims, and women in general, or that I would find myself so concerned with the extent of the problem. For me this thread has been an eye-opener and a very useful educational experience, I have personally learned a great deal.
At this point in the life of this thread, I don't think much useful discussion is going on. It is ironic that you found this site, and this thread, in response to a post by BillRM, since he has devoted most of his energy throughout this thread to victim-bashing, victim-blaming, and victim-discrediting, mainly trying to promote the notion that most rape accusations are false. And he chose your case to continue to promote that view. He has no genuine concern with either the problem of sexual assault/rape, which he tries to minimize and deny, or the problems which affect and limit the successful prosecution of those who commit such crimes. And he has absolutely no concern for how rape victims are treated by the criminal justice system-- he would like to see rape shield protections eliminated to make life even more difficult for such victims, he resents the funding of victim support services, and he wants all rape allegations, and the people making them, to be regarded as suspicious and false until proved otherwise--essentially by putting the victim on trial and trying to degrade her.
BillRM's main value in in this thread, as far as I am concerned, has been to illustrate the problems inherent in rape culture. And he has done that well. Most people have tired of responding to him at all, even to insult him. Fortunately, neither he nor Hawkeye is indicative of most A2K members, or their thinking regarding this topic. They are a sick duo. I hope you will remain at A2K long enough to see that for yourself.
Thank you for sharing your story with us.