How do I give myself an orgasm?

I'm going to reply on the extreme off chance that this is an actual, legit question and not some creepy old man getting his jollies or a viral marketer looking to peddle porn.

Okay, now that that has been said, the first thing is to understand your anatomy. A decent overview is here: http://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/guide/female-reproductive-system-overview -- it also covers pregnancy which you might as well read about while you're at it. The main pleasure center for women is the clitoris. Locate yours (not while you're driving, of course); you can figure it out pretty quickly because -- it should be no great surprise here -- it's going to feel good to touch and stimulate it.

Stimulate it long enough and without interruption and you should be able to orgasm. You may find you need additional stimulus such as lubrication, or something to stimulate your imagination, such as pictures, fabrics, sounds, sex toys or stories. Experiment and find whatever works for you.

As for why you haven't been able to orgasm during sex, that does happen, too. There are women who just aren't stimulated enough by penetration. In this area, experiment as well -- you may do better with oral sex only, or oral sex with simultaneous digital stimulation, or just digital stimulation. Or maybe you haven't been with a guy who's been attentive enough to your needs in this area. You could even be a woman who is not sexually stimulated by men (e. g. a lesbian or perhaps bi). There are any number of reasons why sex does not work as an orgasm factory.

Finally, there are reasons why some people just can't orgasm, no matter what. Once an organic reason is eliminated (e. g. see your doctor and ask him or her this question), you might want to explore possible psychological reasons, such as sexual or other abuse.

I do hope this works out for you as it can be rather frustrating.

And, a word to all responders on behalf of the Moderating Team -- any spam or porn that is posted will be eliminated from this board. We take such things seriously here. Thank you.

There are also certain medications that have anorgasmia as a side effect.

Here's the Mayo Clinic's take on anorgasmia:

Mayo Clinic: Anorgasmia, Main Article

Mayo Clinic: Anorgasmia, Lifestyle and home remedies

That's true, Drew. Thanks for adding that info.

Some of my early experience leads me to post that the problem can be having a partner who has as little knowledge as you do.

In the meantime, enjoy your exploration.

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It might be the most important thing you ever buy.

Yep. I agree. blush.

Ever see one of the old style English motorcycles, i.e. the ones which would vibrate to the point that a person sitting on one looked like a double image on a television screen??

I'm the one who put Male Ineptitude up there as a possible tag. Female anorgasmia sounds so... female guilt-ish. Our bodies can need getting to know.

This hardly sounds like a case of male ineptitude.

In fact, I don't think that the OP mentioned whether she's heterosexual or not.

hi i have had many orgasm but not in 4 years can you give me some help on that thanking you

iam not a male iam a female thanking you

does it work or will it work for me

Not a response to the recent poster..

but why in the world did someone vote down buying a sex toy?

Seriously.. a toy helps a lot. Especially if someone does not know their body enough, or has too many inhibitions to feel comfortable with TRYING to have an orgasm.



ok ( spinning off another topic here)
this is an example of me voting up a post that was unnecessarily voted down. Normally i dont care about that.. but I just find that kind of an objection very odd.

anyway
off my soap box :0)

Are you on any medications? Some medications have anorgasmia as a side effect.

How old are you, if I may ask?

Have you tried various types of dildos/vibrators??? Make sure to let me know how this works out 4 u. Nd let me know if I was any help

Don't feel bad, have read letters to sex-help websites from 50+ year-old women complaining about never having had an orgasm. Is surprisingly common. Advice there as well as from myself is set some time aside where you'll be undisturbed, find some porn you like, get a good vibrator, and just let nature take its' course.

No child ever needed to be taught how to pleasure themselves. So the only way people get up in years without knowing how is if every time they tried they were interupted. Over time that can create a lot of guilt-associaitons with it. So make some time to be alone, and have fun.

My advice is don't try to orgasm so much as just enjoy the journey. If it's all about the end result it's more difficult. Whereas if you just resign yourself to enjoying the moment, the end usually takes care of itself.