What the hell?
You need to make up your damn mind
First, its a flirt, then its an affair, then your wife is dull, then you love her.
jesus christ. Get a grip.
If you dont feel good about the affair dont have it. Its plain and simple.
If you find your wife dull ( which is the reason FOR affairs one partner not in love with the other , disconnect, age difference, life path difference, etc..or bored or what ever..) then leave her and find what you want.
If you DO love her and just like having two women, maybe you should consider an open marriage. A lot of people thrive in those, but it requires all partners to be OK with the situation.
yes. love can come from an affair. A real relationship can and they DO come from affairs.. but the affair has to end either by divorce of the two parties, or end of the affiar.
If its real love, then you two will find a way to be together.
If its just sex, well good luck there.
It is always hard to go back to the spouse and tell them you have found another. No one really wants to hurt another person that way, but you should do it. If you think you can divorce with out saying what is going on, by all means do so. Save the pain. that is not an easy burden for anyone to carry and something, if it can be avoided , SHOULD be . But please treat your wife with respect and if you dotn want to be married to her, do not. She can have a turn with someone who DOES want to be with her, and YOU can be with someone you want to be with. Life is too short to sustain a crappy , unhappy, sexless marriage. I really DONT understand why people stay in those types of relationships calling them love.
Guess i dont really have much to say