I think how we feel about our name affects who we become moreso than the name itself.
Indeed. Cultural and local influences matter as well. It is a source of merriment to British people (males, usually under a certain age, 30 or so) that many American people are called Wank, (and Wanker!)* and apparently suffer no great ill-effects from that. Some become prominent in business, law, etc, as a Google search will show. Whether they masturbate more than usual I am not aware. I do not know if their name causes immigration officers to smile when they arrive in BrE speaking countries. I do believe that the W word has crossed the Atlantic to a certain extent lately.
* A character in the "Mork And Mindy" TV series was called Oliver Wanker.