@Seed,
i go back 11 months and ven he says that " i would rather give this relationship a try now than never..." i would say - not really. being friends eliminates the complications ...
n then he would be hurt for a while but eventually understand , there wld be no heartbreak or tears ...just a fun exciting alive friendship , his secret admirer would Finally gather her guts to meet him n he would find love in the right place.. he wouldnt be lost in the meaningless of life or turn to alcohol or weed. but he wld discover hope n love in truthfulness with a lover who loves him so n a friend who beomes his strength rather than his weakness .