Just need to vent

I've had a rough weekend, I decided I needed to take the day off tomorrow to attend to some personal business.

I don't know about you, but when I learn that someone I know is in the middle of some kind of personal thing, I make every effort not to dump some fucking bullshit on them that can wait until they have the capacity to think about it.

I just called my boss to tell her I wouldn't be in. Taking the time off is not the issue, it isn't like "can't you do this another time?"
It's that my boss basically does not have any sort of existence outside of her work.
She's married, has 2 grown sons a brand new grandbaby, but all she can ever ever find to talk about it work, work, work.

To give an example, one of the managers I work with is going through an absolutely terrible time. Her husband re-tore a ligament in his knee needed a 2nd big operation, and while in surgery, he went into cardiac arrest. Later the cardiologist gave a diagnosis of V-fib. On top of that, there is a really personal issue going on with her son which is tearing her up. On top of that, it's been hellishly busy at the program she runs at work, just an unusal amount of problems coming up....then, last weekend, her 82 year old mother died. Her father had died just within the last year, and I really don't know how this woman is hanging on. She's out of state, and won't be back for a few more days.

The middle of last week, my boss started saying "I wonder why Joan hasn't called me?"
I mean, what the fuck can you say to someone that can't figure out that the last thing on Joan's mind right now is work?

My boss one time came up to me as I was coming off the dance floor at a christmas party, on a saturday night, about 11pm, to talk about something that she wanted me to remember to do next Thursday. I remember vividly the look of confusion on her face when I asked her if this converstion could wait until Monday morning.

Anyway, I just called her, and said the exact thing I said at the beginning here.
"I've had a rough weekend"
I told her what was going on, and without blinking an eye she said "where you able to look at that email I fowarded you about that contract person?"

I told her "you shouldn't have even gotten that email, it's Joan's. but since she's out of town just send it to her assistant. She should know what to do with it."

Boss says "But I don't know if her assistant know what to do with it."

It was then I had to use all my will power not to say "Just what the fuck do you want from me? Send to to so and so and let them figure it out."

Everything for her is crisis mode, end of the world.

If I had to spend every day with her, I could not work there. Fortunately, she's gone a fair amount of the time.

What is it with some people that they can't conceive that when someone needs to devote their personal time to a personal issue, they really don't give a shit at that moment about work?

I just think that's really sad.