Common courtesy ain't common

I can only apologize for myself if I inadvertently or indirectly led or followed certain factions down that road. The whole events of yesterday are beyond any measurable comprehension.

Hey Snood,

Take some time to be good to yourself, please. I know this has hit you very hard, especially coming on a day that you'd already been attending the funeral of a fellow soldier.

Give yourself a few hugs from me.

I think people use gallows humor as a way to insulate themselves.

Unfortunately, this type of violence has become all-to-common in the media.

Also, there is a tendency among certain posters on this board to blame the victims; it has reached the point where I kinda choke on my anger over that.

There also should be "common sense" included.

thanks all. You guys are good.

Dammit Snood I know you take this to heart as most of us do, so all I can say is consider that the guy who made the post really meant no harm - excessive focus on his political agenda is all. He lost track of what was really at issue here. Btw, I know there's a moment of silence at some point, care to let us all know when exactly? Most posters here - am sure of this - would like to observe it.

Oh yeah, people who haven't read the post - on another thread - wouldn't know what you meant or why you complained of rudeness. Again: I'm convinced the guy's comment was thoughtless but not malicious - and you, too, not just he, should focus on more important things

I think Drew Dad has said it best -- gallows humor is often insulation against one's own grief.

Be yourself, Snood. Being upset and hurt ain't it.

I believe we all have been deeply disturbed, but there's no way we can all respond the same. It's not human nature. As for me, no matter how I act, no matter what I post, that incident weighs heavily on me. There are mass killings all the time, it seems. This one somehow stands out and becomes a symbol of all pointless destruction of human life.

I dig it snood. I feel the same way. There's plenty of people to make these kinds of tragedies into political ammo.

I've been guilty of it too. I can think of two threads where I've done it in the last 8 months:

Holocaust Museum Shooting
Abortion Doctor Shooting

I'm a little ashamed right now. I can't remember everything I wrote in those threads, but I can recall the use of these events to leverage political arguments. I don't think I took it as far, but the comparison is valid. I think we can discuss these things and what they mean without political lust.

I have to find a better way; a better and more intelligent angle for my contribution to the dialog on tragedy.

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When I saw this shooting on the news, I was gutted.
I think we can't let events like this stop us from asking WHY. It's disservice to those that died if we can't come to a resolution that will end this mindless violence against future victims.
Another man did the same thing in Orlando today. One person died, five injured. This is not a joke, it just very, very sad.
Why oh why must this madness prevail?

Echoing butrfynet's message to you, Snood. And sending plenty of my own hugs your way. Take good care & try to fit in a little calm & relaxation time (if at all possible) over the next few days.

I do understand about black (or gallows) humour, too. Often my own way of coping with distressing situations that threaten to knock me over. As the saying goes: if you don't laugh, you'll cry.

Thanks again all. I'm okay, for those who expressed concern.

And just for the record, I know when I'm "being myself "better than anyone on A2K, and angry and hurt is in there occasionally, along with all the other human stuff, just like any other human being.

I hear ya

Well that's better! The moment of silence btw was observed yesterday even on the internet; for those who missed it:

Hang Tough Snood. Earth peoples that way sometimes. No akamai.