Why should we get married?

Hello Rachel, & welcome to A2K.

I wouldn't dream of advising anyone whether to marry or not. It's a very personal decision.
As to having children: Well that's a very serious consideration, a big commitment (as you already know).
What is considered a good age to marry in China?
And how old are you?
Are you experiencing pressure from your parents to marry soon?

Hi, Msolga. Thank you for your reply. In China, marriage ages are 25 years old for girls and 27 years old for boys. Haha, I am near to this age. My parents are ok for this. They rarely ask me to get married. I am confuesd because it is a traditional problem in China.

Ah, so it will be just your decision, Rachel?
That's good. Things could be a lot more upsetting for you if your parents were applying pressure!
Do your friends feel confused (like you) about whether to marry or not?
What sorts of things do you think you might like to do if you don't marry? Any ideas? Any special dreams or plans?

At present, I am not prepared to get married. For marriage is not only need love, a lot of other things will appare in it. I would like to continue my life with freedom. Some of my friends are confused. We usually talk the topic" Getting married or not? It is a question!". And there are more brave people, my friends, enter the marriage life very early. It depends on our own decision. Actually, I would like to being single. ahaha......

Making babies and being married are two separate issues.

Thanks for your concern, Ebrown. However, if you get married, the next problem will be babies. They are different but connected very closely.

Well, that's certainly a valid choice, Rachel. Plenty of women have made that choice.

Do you think remaining single would make your life more "difficult", than if you married?

It depends on things. At present, single life is much easier than dating with somebody. My friends always say that I am satisfied with my single life just because I have not met someone whom I may fall in love with. I don't know if they are telling the truth. But I can work and earn my life by myself. I can call friend when I need to talk to somebody.
Now we have another question. If all of your best friends are getting married, and they are talking about their husband and babies and family problems they found, do you think you still have the passion to being single?