MASTERBATING HELP PLZ

Get thee to the nunnery. You are too young to be messing around.

12 year old isn't going to be able to purchase lube joe.

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Ill only give you my judgement. Sex isnt a toy that will leave you happy and untouched. masturbating each other will naturally lead to sex (dont kid yourself, every one here has had the same experiences as you, youre not unique in that).
When you feel that you can safely engage in sex, you wont. You will no doubt get pregnant and then your entire life will be turned over to caring for the life of another tiny helpless being. You will have a baby (or an abortion )and neither will be a satisfying fullfillment at 14 years old.
Forget about the boy. If you give in and have sex,His life will not be affected much at all, and he can be long gone (and probably will be) and itll only be You and a screaming, demanding baby who will occupy your entire life when you should be at a time of life where you are learning and having fun.

Be an adult and dont engage in sex, no matter how smoothly he tries to talk you into it. He will actually respect you more if you thwart his sexual advances.

As far as masturbation at your age, if you were my daughter, Id tell you about the risks of sexual foreplay. Remember. all masturbatory activities are merely a precursor to actual sex. Dont be foolish, just drop this guy and get on with your primary task of growing up to become a smart girl.

Remember, If you just accede to his wishes, he will talk about what you give him to all his friends. Guys are all the same and no matter how he pledges his love, he just wants some sex and to pass on a good story to his buds.You are a rite of passage to him, hes not thinking about long term relationships.Hes only thinking with his penis.

Do you have plans for a future?Think about giving up ALL your plans and being left there, all alone, with a baby on the way. Think about how you can avoid that condition and try to plan a life for YOU, and not just for someone elses bodily pleasures.

You can take a big step into becoming an adult and thinking for yourself , or you can continue to be a child who is giving her trust and body completely over to someone else who wont respect either as well as you do.

MAke us proud and tell this punk to get lost before your uncle comes over and wrings his scrawny neck .(sorry, I just get very protective of kids who are so close to being used)

Buy a few condoms. It might be embarrassing now, but the natural conclusion to the scenario you've painted here is to have sex. You need to have condoms on hand.

A motivated 12-year old will.

Damn.

Ok.

If you are still reading this...

You CAN buy lube.
It is at the grocery store in the 'health' isle.. where you can find condoms. Usually close to shaving items for some reason?

Any way.
An orgasm.. I dont know how to explain it better then an elongated sneeze.
You FEEL the build up and you get more focused on touching yourself. It is not so much that touching your self FEELS better.. you just notice a purpose to it. You are more driven to it..
Basically.. you dont want to stop and if it is your first time, you may not understand. Just dont stop HA! Seriously.
You will know it once you have had it. I dont know how else to really explain that one.

My suggestion would be to masturbate on your own with out your boyfriend so you dont feel like you have to pay attention to him too. it is easier when you are alone.. no one knows.. no one to judge you, or ask you what you are doing or why.

there are a lot of things in y our house you can use to masturbate with but honestly? your fingers are the best. YOU know where to touch yourself.. not a straight stick, a handle, a lipstick.. none of that. Just use your fingers and be patient.

What you are doing with your boyfriend may one day lead to sex. So be smart and dont be embarrassed. Just get some condoms. Have them on hand so that you dont have to worry when the time comes.
You are not a bad person, you are not "immature and in danger" . Your body is experiencing hormone changes and guess what? That makes you horny And it is O. K So now, time to start being smart. It is that simple.


A condom can save your life. Please do not ever underestimate this. Do not let anyone talk you out of it either. Good intentions do not stop pregnancy and it does not stop disease. Meaning.. just because your boyfriend says he will pull out, or thinks you WONT get pregnant, words dont stop nature. We have sex TO get pregnant. So stop that process. Use a condom then you can have sex with out worry. ( not 100% with out worry, but with out worry none the less)

Just.. no reason.. no excuse. Use a condom all the time.

But slow down. Sex does not have to be over in 2 minutes and you are not required to orgasm every time.
Your first time having sex is going to be just OK. Not a lot of fun, nothing major.. it is just OK. And it may hurt a bit because boys that young are in a hurry. Your body will not have time to get excited enough, nor produce enough lube to accept his penis with out hurting. So do expect that.
It is with practice that it gets better so dont think that it is some magical moment that will change your life or that it means true love.
It doesnt.
It just means you had sex. Just like the majority of everyone else in the world.
Again.. it is no big deal.

But be smart and be safe and have fun.
Condoms. Lube. masturbate yourself alone.
Once you learn your body, and learn how to have an orgasm, you wont feel so rushed or embarrassed about sex. Sex isnt embarrassing..... you just need to know how to do it..

good luck to you

Yes, learn how to give yourself an orgasm! Then you won't have to rely on anyone else for it. So many girls think having orgasms equals being in love...that only someone special can make them feel that way. But that's not true. You can do it for yourself. So go ahead and experiment.

AND...by learning what works on your own body, you'll be better prepared to have a good experience when you're old enough to have sex with someone else.

Right now, you're playing with fire. It's SO easy to lose control of your feelings and go too far...and it seems to be even easier for boys. We've all been there. Pregnancy is a real possibility if you and your boyfriend keep going, and I don't think either of you is ready for that. Do you have a mother or another woman in your life you can talk to about these things?

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and lets not forget........


if you learn how to have an orgasm, watching someone else fumble around in bed is less appealing.

I was about 16 when i learned. My desire to have sex with others went away. I saw that I was the best screw I had..

She and Eva-good posts

I agree, though I also understand farmerman.

I understand his point of view but I disagree strongly with:

instead, I think Eva was pointing out that masturbation could be a way to delay sex until the poster was mature enough to handle the responsibilities.

Yep.

12-13 is kinda young, but I think it's pointless to tell anyone to stop all sexual activity once they've already started. It's not gonna happen.

Sexuality isn't a bad thing, you know. It's a normal, healthy part of being a teenager. I think it's important to tell teens there are safe and unsafe ways to be sexual, and encourage them to make safe choices.

Ladies???

That one's easy. Tell your mother that you know you're getting older and you think you might start getting your period some time soon, so you will be needing supplies. Ask her where she keeps them. If she doesn't have any (she might have gone through menopause, or might have had a hysterectomy or might simply be out of them), ask her what she buys. If she's not forthcoming (and she should be, but I can understand if for whatever reason you cannot have this discussion), go to the drug store and buy a box of maxi pads and a box of mini pads. These should be the kind you stick to your underwear. Keep the boxes in the bathroom.

Maxi pads are for heavy days (you're bleeding a lot), mini days are for light days (probably toward the end of your period). See if you can buy the kind that are individually wrapped as you should carry a few in your purse. If not, or if they're too expensive, put a few of them (clean, of course) in a ziploc bag and put the ziploc bag in your purse. And of course be sure to take your purse with you when you go to the bathroom if you think you're going to get your period. Of course you need not wear a pad every single day -- only when you're getting your period. You dispose of them in a trash can in the bathroom; it's courteous to wrap them in a little clean toilet paper before tossing them. Yes, there are tampons, but if you're first starting out, I would suggest pads.

A lot of girls/women get cramps before getting their period. They could be a day or two before, or right before it starts. Others don't get any cramps at all. You might get emotional. Me, I tend to get not only crampy and emotional but I also get talkative. So pay attention to your body.

I recall I started my period, didn't know what to say and so my mother figured it out because my underwear was stained, I was antsy and I was in the bathroom a lot. I was 11 years old and I knew about periods, it just seemed like a weird and icky thing to talk to her about. But once she broached the subject I realized it was fine.

Hang in there.

12/13 is far too young for you to consider having sex. Everybody I know who lost their virginity pre 16 regrets it. Im now 37 and lost mine at 15 and regretted it......I got the girl who was 17 pregnant but if you do FOR GOD'S SAKE USE CONDOMS!!!!! Even get someone to buy them or you could get them free from a sexual health clinic. Please mind that mutual masturbation depending on where you live could still be illegal. Experiment with yourself with masturbation, use your fingers not any objects that or not for that purpose you could do something wrong.......Youngsters, these days!!!!!!!!! At 12/13 I was only interested in football and transformers loool.

i don't know if you're gonna read this but if you are then girl you gotta know that having sex the first time is not all bed of roses.... it's really painful and because you're already going through so many hormonal changes it can all lead to a total breakdown of the body systems.. your sex hormones.. that is progesterone and oestrogen, will already be causing physical and emotional changes... that's the reason that even the menstrual cycle starts late in humans... even after your cycle starts it takes some time for the body to get tuned to the changes. the very same way that an engine runs better after it has run a few miles... so why don't you try to hold back for just a little longer... just let your body get used to the changes and then go in for it. till then try to keep yourself occupied with physical activity like soccer or running.. that really helps to calm down the drive.. you are turning into a woman... it's really a very difficult time but the advantage you have is your will power. i really hope you heed my advice...

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Bullshit.

Soccer? Running?

In place of sex?

That is like telling a starving child to lick a tree instead of seeking food.

You need to be realistic and being realistic does not mean avoidance of the issue. Physical activity does not remove a sexual desire. If that were the case the entire world would be overweight couch potatoes because no one wants to NOT have sex.

Sex is normal.
Sex is ok.
sex is fun
sex is not a bad thing you should avoid and virginity is not a gold prize to be handed out . Religion says virginity is "special" . Virginity is just a physical state. Nothing more. We should really stop telling our women that being a virgin makes them worth something. That just goes completely against our nature, our dna and our physical need and drive to procreate. Talk about putting your girls down before they even get started. Telling them they have to keep a flap of skin to be worth something as a woman?
I will be glad when that idea has left society.