About to Quit!

I miss Noddy.

Heatwave, we have missed you.

You have at least my support - but, do you want to talk about it first?

Hi, Ossobuco! I missed you & everyone else here, too!

Thank you for the support! I don't really have a choice. I am going to tell her I'm reordering my priorities with so much to juggle (kid, work, school). I think it'll be a good thing - but I'm nervous, nervous, nervous.

Ok, then, just plain old extreme support from here. I and, dare I say, we, care about you here.

Noddy, we all miss her so much.

Hi Heatwave!

Whoa, big step! Looks like it's an important one. What happens next?

Good luck!

Good to "see" you, Heatwave.

Hope it is going well if you are doing it now....

Yes, I care about you and so many other folks here. Always gives me pause b/c I've never met any of you.

Hi, Sozobe & Squinney. It's done. The arm's severed. (Such a drama queen.) I didn't really want to - but would've prob'ly been divorced if I hadn't.

Next: Be a good Indian wife and homemaker. And, maybe ramp up the classes so that I run through grad school faster.

Make another baby.

W00p lots and lotsa changes going on in your life.

Good on ya -- quitting can sometimes be hard to do.

We all miss Noddy, too.

Oy vey, and ai chihuahua.
I won't make my usual blunt remarks since we have cultural differences, while I figure we would be pals in real life.

The good part seems to be re school -- which I don't know about, but I'm usually a school fan.

Oy vey & ai chihuahua, indeed! (Think I'll have to adopt this expression!)

I am a fan of school, too! I love it and that is definitely a big, fat silver lining!

Hi, Jespah - yep, lots going on. I think 2009 will be an interesting year.

Hey Heatwave, so nice to see you again :-D

I wish you the very best, but you already knew that.

Missing Noddy to pieces with you and the gang.

I don't know where I got the 'ai chihuahua' expletive, or ay/ai - perhaps it was from Pancho in the Cisco kid tv series, which I've no doubt wasn't true to culture. Since then I've known people who lived in that area - not fictional. I never managed to ask them about this.

In english, I shun cutesifying of swear words - but I enjoy other languages' words. Not that 'ai chihuahua' is one of those - it might have been a screenwriter's brainfart.

FOR EVERYONE WHO MISSES NODDY...

http://able2know.org/topic/127630-1

Well dang.

That doesn't sound like super-good news then.

Do you have a pretty good mom-friend network built up already? People , especially stay-at-home moms, with kids your daughter's age?

If you need time to build that, A2K is here for ya...

Hi, Montana! Nice to see you, as well! How have you been?

Frank, thank you for the link to the pictures of Noddy.

Sozobe, M is still going to be in daycare, though I'll probably drop her a little later & pick her up little earlier. I'm just supposed to have more time to manage the house 'appropriately,' cook all the meals, chores around the house, etc. etc. etc. Alongwith concentrating on school & figuring out what I want to do in life post grad-school.

I think I could look forward to it, actually, if it wasn't being crammed down my throat. And, if I didn't hear the occassional comment that I wasn't quitting my job to just sit at home & party.

Oh my.

All the more reason for an at-home mom friend network. It sounds to me like you're really going to need some sanity-savers.

Sorry I don't sound very positive about this -- in my own experience and in what I've observed of pretty much every person I know who has quit working to be more of a parent/ homemaker (male or female) -- it's a really difficult transition. All the more difficult when there's an element of throat-cramming. (Grr.)

Not saying it's impossible, not saying it's universally horrible, not saying there aren't a whole lot of good things about it. (I'm very glad I've had this opportunity and wouldn't have it any other way.) But the transition can be super-hard, and friends (especially friends in similar positions i.e. people who used to work outside the home and now don't) make a HUGE difference. Even just the occasional lunch.

Yeah, it's a little bit sucky.

And, no, I don't know any other at-home mom-types folks. I think I should try. Although, at least for now, I am envisioning a pretty full day for myself: wrap up chores in the AM after dropping M off, homework (which I have a TON of) and then school. I'm going to make fuller use of resources at school as well (libraries & such). Maybe get in some gym-time in between. Also, M's daycare/preschool requires 5 hours each quarter of volunteer time - so far I've been stuck with the crummy projects because I could ony do after work hours. Now, I could be a lot more involved with her school.

I don't know. I guess it'll evolve.

School! I forgot about that, and it's a major mitigating factor. You get to hang out with adults and think adult thoughts and accomplish stuff (in a way that gets feedback, anyway -- there's lots of accomplishing in parenting but not a lot of feedback).

Still recommend other, stronger social ties (i.e., friendships, not just acquaintances), but sounds like you have the ingredients for that, especially if you start getting more involved at M's school.