How to get myself together?

I would suggest you just go up to him and ask him out. That is how my wife caught me. He may be a bit shy so take a chance.

Talk to him.

Why is this hard if you are a confident person?

I think you are putting out the unattainable vibe. You are trying so hard to play hard to get that he thinks you would never pay attention to him. Trust me, only the most confident guys will try when they think they haven't got a chance.

Bella is right - talk to him. Ask him questions about himself. There are very few men who can resist a confident, classy woman who is interested in them! But before you put all your hopes in him, make sure you realize that he may not be all he seems either. Use the time you talk to him to find out if you are really interested in him. Once you realize what lies behind his good looks and what makes him tick - you will know whether you want to go forward.

Anytime I used all my arsenal to reel them in before I knew who they were - I was sorry. Then I had to repel - and that just sucks. So - go forward with the "testing" phase - just to see - then proceed from there. Good luck!

Ask a friend of both him and you to "drop a dime" and let him know you are interested.

You will get vibes from him, after that - OR he will avoid you if he's not interested.

It's one thing to play "hard to get," and another to play "I'm ignoring you."

If I'm attracted to a girl, I look for signs from her that she's interested, and push buttons to see what kind of response I get. I don't know how well he knows you, but if he's at least spoken to you, and you're being that aloof...well good luck missing out on potential mates.