sorry....2 other things I wanted to mention.....
#1 - If someone new came on here and told the exact same story about herself and her fiancee, what would your thoughts be?
you're very close to this situation, but look at it as an outsider, an objective party.
#2 - Re posts about "being on a leash" and getting "used to" the transition of living with someone, in this case this man....
That is such bullshit.
There are tons of wonderful people in this world to be in a relationship with. Sure, sometimes a person may feel like they'll never find someone to be with.
In the society which we are speaking of, there is no reason to give anyone permission to be put on a leash, or have to get used to the mysterious ways of someone else, meaning their negative, controlling ****. That is what the SOB that wants to put a choke chain on a person, and make them deal with their crap wants you to believe.
If the other person loved and respected you, the way you deserve, why would they want you to put a lease on?
I've used this line before, from the book The Joy Luck Club, and it's so true....
One of the mothers in the book said to her daughter "you don't know your own worth"
Does your sister know her worth? If she did, would she settle, or be appreciated by someone else who knows how valuable she is?