unhappy relationship

You just walk away. Do you really think so little of yourself that you believe this is the best you can do? A married man who if he really was in love with you would just go ahead and file for divorce now, or at least move out of his house now. A man who while having a relationship with you is involved in sex chats online with others.

Personally, when you mess with a married man you deserve exactly what you get. I have little or no pity for you. But, you can do yourself a world of good by just walking away from him. Then why don't you think about looking for someone who is not attached. Your odds of finding happiness are a bit better going that route in my opinion.

Hello Jeje and welcome to a2k.

Of course you cannot trust him. You should have never trusted him in the
first place: a man who is unfaithful to his wife, will be unfaithful to his
girlfriend too! Why do you think you would be the exception?

Hello JEJE - welcome to A2K.

How do you let go?

First, congratulations on realizing that letting go is precisely what you should do.

Then, put the hurt that you feel into perspective and allow it to become anger. He's used you and will continue to use you so long as you allow it.

Your feelings will eat at you as long as they represent hurt and betrayal. Only by accepting him for who he is ... someone who would cheat on his wife and cheat on his mistress ... will allow you to move on and walk away.

Good luck! Keep talking.

How do you let go?

The same way as you would if he were a marshmallow and you were holding the burning stick over the fire.

BECAUSE YOU MUST - or YOU are the one who will get burned!

I think your real questions should be: How did I get into this mess and how can I move on?

JEJE,
First off we can all sit here and scold you for getting involved with a married man. But the fact of the matter is that you did and now you're in a less than desirable situation. There is no turning back and changing what has already occurred.

But you're heart and gut is telling you what to do and you should go with that. Because your gut is usually right. This man has proven himself to be unfaithful. You can not guarentee that he will be any different with you. You are young and worthy of a fulfilling relationship. So moving on may be painful but you know it's the right thing for you to do.

I'd suggest that you get yourself involved with other things to take your attention away from him. When you are not there and available to him, he may very well start the manipulation game and try to talk his way back into your life. You need to be strong and do what is right for you.
By standing up for yourself and getting past this you will feel so much better about yourself. You are a strong woman and you can do this.

I'll check back in to see how you're holding up. But protect your heart, save it for someone who will cherish you!

Do you two have an agreement that you are exclusive? Did he agree that he would not cheat on you with anyone but his wife?

I suspect not, thus he has done nothing wrong. The problem is with your expectations, not with his behaviour. If you like this guy you should try to get over your disappointment, should do your best to make the most of the time that you have with him. The relationship may or may not go anywhere, but I see no reason for you to deprive yourself of whatever it is that this relationship gives you.

Duh??!
He's still married AND he has a girlfriend AND he plays porn.com ?
Sounds like he has the good deal and the other three saps are getting sloppy leftovers.