Wilso said:
Quote:Anyone who claims that religion is the basis for their morals - is lying. I can present examples later if required, but if people are "good", then it's despite religion, not because of it.
No, I don't go for that either...and I think it's harsh to say that because someone may believe they adopted their morals because they learned them in church is 'lying'. Maybe they truly believe that..maybe they're misinformed and/or mistaken - but I'd hardly call them liars.
And I wouldn't even assert that they're mistaken or misinformed. Some people DO learn ethical and moral behavior in church because they don't have the opportunity to learn it anywhere else. If you are raised in a family or by a mother or father who espouses and engages in less than moral behavior - sometimes a person DOES have to venture outside the home to learn morals. And a lot of times the church provides moral guidance.
And I don't want to get into everything the church does wrong - I already know that. I just don't think you can say that some churches never do anything right.
And I totally disagree that if someone is good it's DESPITE the church and not because of it. What is 'THE CHURCH' anyway? I know what my church is - and it's an entity unto itself. It's not part of some giant behemoth institution that links all creeds and believers together.
That's like saying 'THE SCHOOL' or 'THE HOSPITAL' or 'THE whatever other social or cultural entity one participates in', as if they're all the same with the same weaknesses or strengths when the fact of the matter is that they're all different.
I think people who don't believe or who don't attend church or who have attended church and have had a bad experience tend to paint all religion with a negative and broad brush. There are some very good churches that are doing really good work. And there are a lot of young people who are finding positive social networks and outlets which wouldn't be available to them anywhere else. Not every church preaches condemnation and brimstone and judgment and brainwashing of innocents. There are some churches that just provide a place for a kid to feel a part of something. And a lot of kids need that.
Wilso - is that your wife? If so - I think you should say that. Someone reading this thread might think she's someone or something else (as per the title of this thread - which I know you'd hate for them to assume).
Are we supposed to assume she's emotionally fulfilling to you because she's pretty? If so, that kind of busts Spendius' theory about pretty women ...but I guess maybe he thinks if she can cook - that'd be a redeeming trait.
But I bet she's emotionally fulfilling to you because you love her - and would even if she weren't pretty and couldn't cook.
Wow--imagine that...