Divorce Cakes

The theme seems to be amongst the cakemakers that grooms should be doomed to be dead, covered in red, whilst nary a hair is out of place on the brideshead. Perhaps they should revisit their ideas.

Joe(She gave him a icing.)Nation

I guess women are the only ones who'd get a cake like that. I mean, a divorced guy doesnt want a cake, he wants a beer...

Well, there was a bed sawing in half divorce party in the 70's in New York, attended by many glitterati, including John and Yoko.......but, erm, I find the cakes yucky.

Still, I guess it is better if folk can take their shit out in a few cakes and have a good therapeutic laugh, (if that's what's happening) than doing it via the kids, or endless real acrimony and fights about property that last for years.

I dunno....I guess I'm a ferking peace love and brown smegging rice hippy or something...but, while I know there can be a lot of anger upon parting, I think it's a damn bad relationship (and I do know that they exist, like abusive ones for example) that didn't have a lot of good times and from which one hasn't learned a lot.

I have nothing but the best thoughts of the fellas I have loved. Well, the occasional less than good thought...but only on bad hair days... ; )


I get wanting some sort of divorce/separation ritual, but couldn't it be a little more compassionate than that?


Mind you...it's an ill wind that blows the cake-bakers no good.


The murder themes are distinctly revolting to me, I must say.

I'd want cake and scotch.

I'd want to eat icing off a stripper's ass...

I don't like these cakes.

I think it's dwelling on an occassion that needs to RIP in a more constructive way.
It seems like a real drama queen, attention getting ploy.

It does say that it's the man that always to blame....not true.

Long ago, a woman I had recently met through work asked me if I was married. I said, well, actually I just divorced about 2 months ago.

She got a bright smile on her face and said "Congratulations!"

Then I said that I was planning on remarrying in about a month.

That seems to take all her interest in ex-husband bashing away.

I don't see these cakes as a good way to shake off a bad experience, remembering that there was obviously something that attracted the 2 of you to each other, and respect that.

I think they don't show bloody, dead brides because it hits a little too close to reality to be funny.

The only divorce party I ever went to featured a big bon fire, but no fancy cake. I do know of one pissed divorcee who Fed Ex'd her soon to be ex-husband's dirty laundry, sex magazines, sports paraphernalia, high school trophies, and long printouts of his internet flirtations to the new woman in his life. She said she felt it was her duty to warn another woman what she might be getting herself into.

Hell hath no fury....

I think there is some truth in that. I've noticed women tend to look for creative revenge while men just get angry or go off wounded.

I've seen where divorce ceremonies are also performed now.
http://www.newyorkdivorce.com/Articles/DMdivorceceremonies.html

I m glad that I 'm immune to divorce





David

Well I had a friend, who said (when she told me she'd gotten divorced. and I'd stated that I was sorry) that she was SO happy and relieved. She said that the chaos that attended her marriage since its very inception had delayed and/or made impossible any even slightly small bit of happiness or peace she could have expected in her life.

I'd never met her husband - so I can't comment on blame- and she didn't even necessarily assign any- she just said THE MARRIAGE (between the two of them) was a mistake - and that she was glad that mistake had been rectified.

I can picture her eating cake on that occasion. I eat cake on many much less momentous and life changing occasions - so why not?

I know how it feels to be happy and relieved and in the mood to treat oneself- I can imagine feeling that you've made the right decision about something- even if it's to divorce after an ill conceived marriage- would qualify.

Good to c u again !
I was wondering about u.
I hope u 've been well.

On Nov. 24th, the O M SIG will be back in
One If By Land, Two if By Sea. I look forward to the Beef Wellington.
Join us, if u r back in town again.





David

Indeed....I have no problem with cake as such.....I just find dead, bloodied exes as a theme yuck.

Mind you, bloody weddings tend to cost an absolutely insane amount of money, and I do fear the idea of making divorces/separations into the same kind of circus...what next, bloatedly expensive divorce dresses that are never worn again? Expectations of feeding hundreds of people?

Man...it could turn into another major industry!

This one I'm pretty sure is real:

HI DAVID!!! Can you believe I just now saw this message from you? How are you? I'm busy, busy, busy and doing well - happy - I have this little cafe now and though I've never run a cafe before - it's taken off and is doing very well. I'm meeting some really lovely people - a midwife who's delivered 800 babies - this long distance bike rider who's teaching me how to mediate - and all these old age pensioners who've become my new family (they like my cottage pie and bangers on mash). I love it - they call me 'darling' and 'love' and kiss me hello and goodbye...it's lovely.

I'll be in New York over Christmas - maybe we can meet up then.

Are both bride n groon expected
to partake of the cake, Mr. Gentel ?

Hi, Rebecca !
I 'm fine, thank u.
U bought a cafe ? CONGRATULATIONS !
What became of your career in education ?

I can 't comment much about delivering babies,
but insofar as mediation is concerned, I have found that
the key to success in getting the litigants (or disputants)
to settle their case is to get an offer on the table from defendant,
then to speak to them individually, alone,
and to present the side of each party in the blackest possible light,
to induce him to accept the offer or demand of the other side.

U get them to approach one another 's position,
by ratcheting, incrimentally, between offer and demand.
U can have the plaintiff consider what he or she will do
with the cash forthcoming from defendant: a vacation, or wardrobe, etc.
Remind them that in a settlement, THAY have control,
as distinct from letting the judge or jury decide their fate,
if thay decide to throw the dice. U can tell them that there r
no appeals from settlements, and tell plaintiffs that thay 'll get the cash SOONER
than if the sheriff has to levy execution of judgment
(assuming that plaintiff wins, and remind plaintiff
[in the absence of defendant] that he has the burden of proof).
Toward the end, a momentum develops toward settlement.
Then its: NEXT CASE !
Good Luck !

I look forward to seeing u around Christmas.
Think of some good restaurants !
David