How much time does a relationship need?

Lemme answer your

poll here too.

I think time can heal anything, unless the person feeds on the misery or

pain. But those people don't want to heal on some level.

You may never forget, but humans are resilient, they can

always rebound.

I think it's all

phsicilogical, in the mind so to speak and if you have it in you it is possible to overcome all, but how many of us have it

in us......?

You never know if

you have it in you. You just rise to the occasion.

I really think all humans have it in them. They just might not

choose to take advantage of it.

Healing is a

process. It is a gradual process, and a spiritual process ~ a journey rather than a destination.

One thing leads to

another and things, as well as us, get better.

There comes a time in the healing process where we must reprogramme

ourselves. It may be frightening and confusing at times, as all change is, where we leave the familiar for the untravelled

ground and new horizons.

I believe healing from a deep wound can become a vague ache or distant memory, and depending

on the circumstances we will and do recover but I don't believe we're ever the same person again.

We learn to adjust

our course, and if the lessons learned are to be put to good use, we need to realize and trust we are exactly where we need

to be in our journey and have experienced what we needed to in order to reach the place where we emanate our best light.

I am sure I said this once already, I think the post vanished :
O.K. again here we go....

I think that belongs in the original Poetry post. It's fantastic, My eyers are all misti,
Very Very cool
:cool:

If you don't pick-pick-pick at the scab, any wound will heal.

Of course, there may be scar tissue.

There is also the wistful, skewed view:

Time wounds all heels.

Sure, you can get used to anything if you do it long enough.












Even hanging.

Awwwwwww, man......

Rog, don't know why that sounds so depressing, but it does......

Rae--

Re: Roger's thought: "Sure, you can get used to anything if you do it long enough."


I think it sounds depressing because it is depressing.

Many people hang grimly on to the Devil They Know rather than taking a chance on changing their world into a happier place.

Fear and intertia are the enemies of change.

Agreed, Noddy.

But it's still sad.

This is all too vaporous for me. If I as a woman have been raped, do I need to get over it. Yes, sure, I need to deal with it relative to myself. Do I need to smile at this person, no I don't. If I as a guy, get suckered in some way, and hurt, do I need to get over it. Yes, again, sure, again, but do I need to smile at the guy when I see him, no. (See The Virginian)

People change, sometimes, within seconds, although we are all more complex than that and we basically go along in our paths equilibrating as we go.

So from me, I say, seconds to a decade. Wait for it.

I recall when this was originally posted. I couldn't really figure out what the question was - the title was 'how much time does a relationship need?', the poll was about recovery from wounds. Is Pharon trying to determine how long it takes to be ready to move on to a new relationship? recover from an injury in a relationship, to continue with the relationship? as ossoB says - vapourous. (or actually, she says vaporous, bein' american and all :grin:).

Everybody varies, however I find for alot of people, time consists of the word year/s. I do think too, that what aids one in healing is positive/negative thinking.
Ive seen the positive thinkers get on with the flow of life (as hard as it is) and Ive seen people who deal with things negatively just not move from the muddy puddle they are in.

I may be bold in saying it, maybe time healing all wounds is a chosen thing?

I think it's quite accurate ~ not bold.

We have a choice with everything that comes our way.

(Welcome, celticclover!!)

I know this isn't a new question, but here's what I think even though delayed.

Wounds don't heal, they scar. Some you show to people, others you hide. At first they can be ugly discolored tracks. Everytime you look at them you remember the day you got cut, burned, hurt.

Every once in a while the scar catches your eye, and everytime it's a little bit lighter, a little less noticable. You think about how much it hurt less and less, and start being grateful that it's fading away.

As the years pass it may cause you to glance and think nothing. Then it disappears and you can hardly remember even having it.

Hiya Sugar ~ good points you've brought up. 'Scars' or 'battle wounds' make us who we are.

I choose to let go of the hurt and just incorporate it into the person I am today.

The realtionship memories can fade but what about the ability to trust again how do you get that back in yourself or another person. In all my failed relationships, and there are many, I finally had to look at the fact that I was the only common demonator. It is an ugly kind of feeling I heard on the radio some time ago that having regret is like pouring acid on your soul and I find that to be true.

Sorry to keep harping on the subject of choice.....

Regret is also a choice we make. And the one I find hardest to keep up with on a daily basis.

Letting go of past regrets is a difficult task.

If you don't try to let go, you'll never know if it's possible.