What to do? Grandparents telling grandchildren they’re parents are stupid, selfish, etc.

Erm...does school mean your parents do not care for your children at all?

Would you put up with any of this from a non-family babysitter?

If the answer is no, then the answer should be no for family members who are caregivers of your children. They should know that they have a responsibility to be good role models.

Perhaps they're simply past it, in terms of patience.

It's truly not acceptable behaviour from people who are supposed to be helping you with your children.

huh. In reference to DrewDad's post, I actually have been thinking that your parents are very good at taking advantage of your feelings.

I been fighting posting here all day...

Linkat, I have read you from afar for a while, and have no wish to spook you.

Do YOU feel in your heart that your folks support YOU as a parent.

Things are crumbling now, and it is not your responsibility to "parent" yours, but if it is messing with your kids, you hafta take a second look...

When school starts, my older will be 5 days a week so it is unlikely they will care for her - maybe a stray day or so when there is a school vacation. My younger one will be in 3 days a week full time, but she isn't as in tune with things my parents are saying.

Also this just started. I do think yesterday was a fluke sort of thing. I sat them down last night to get the full story. Seems they were very naughty and my mom flew off the handle - can't fully blame her as I know I have when they get out of control.

Fortunately that doesn't happen too often - it seems to happen when they are bored or have too much time around each other. And this was the case. I gave them a stern talking to - and also a conversation about calling me and asking me to pick them up - that is only to be used in an emergency and I explained the ramifications to me and them if it happens again.

You may be right - however, if school wasn't starting next week, I would talk with them. Also, most of the stuff happened immediately after my niece moved so it seems more the timing.

I am torn as if I talk with them, I know they will be defensive. I am not sure what it would accomplish, but making them more angry. There are just a few more days left of being over at my parents (except the youngest) and she doesn't have an issue - the girl doesn't listen in and gets so wrap up in her own playing she doesn't notice anything. Her older sister is the opposite - she hears EVERYTHING. Believe me - you can't hide anything from that one!

The kids seem fine. I talked with my older daughter and she said they behaved well today. She also seems/sounds very happy today.

Hope things stay more settled.