What to expect with Hospice?

So, my mother is not giving me any info on Hospice.
This freaks me out and I'll tell you why.
My Grandmother's specific wishes are that my Mother wait 3 days to tell anyone when she goes.

She could be fine and my Mom could just be tired and all that but, I specifically asked her the last two days what Hospice nurse had to say. She isn't answering. She's writing me back about everything else but, only once a day and short notes.

She makes me nuts.
It's all via email so, hard for me to get a feel for but, since she's been tired and all I didn't want to call and wake her.
Maybe I'll call her this weekend.

I'm so frustrated with it at this point I just -----ARGH>Mom's-GOSH!

Okay- finally heard back. Jeesh.

She is doing better (I should know better than to think the worst)
The pain meds have helped her to feel better and pick at some food as well as get some other meds in to stop the bleeding and NOW my Mom says Hospice thinks she's fine to go out to dinner this weekend.

How Mom is going to get her and the wheelchair in the car is another story but, it's okay - maybe they will laugh about it the whole time.

Whoa, I can see how that would be unsettling... why 3 days before your mom can tell anyone?

She has 6 children and only 3 of them have been there for her in the last 10-15 years. She believes that if the others are told before her wishes are completed they will interfere (which they did with my grandfather) so her stipulation is 3 days before anyone is told. Those are her wishes and if that's what she wants well then - that's what she wants. It's hard for me to handle though at times that she could be gone and I don't know if my mother would tell me. Sigh.