makemeshiver33 wrote:Hey Dag....
Quote: i do remember the long talk with my parents (i could still recount parts of it) in the kitchen when i was just about 15 and did somethig equally stupid. that stuck with me to this day.
I remember those sorted lectures, they went in one ear and out the other. The same sorted details was repeated over and over and over till I was sick of sitting there, and usually seething by the time they released me to go to my room to think about what they had to say.
These were 3 and 4 hour lectures that usually occured after I was beaten for whatever it was that I sopposedly done wrong.
I got the point the first round.....
I just totally disagree with the lectures from my experience.
Make it short, sweet and get to the point.......
No no no, not what i meant at all. I did not mean 'lectures' - that i agree is punishment itself. We talked talked (me too, not a monologue at me). As a family. How much we mean to each other, about our relationships, remembering events, times, people... all in a positive way. Of course some of it was about the night in question, but the point was to understand the reasons behind the strong emotions and to empathize with the other's position.
my mother also is a family therapist- she is a pre-marriage and marriage counselor so she was testing her techniques on me all my life. i think they worked very well, for the most part.
