I am married, having an affair! I dont know how to get out

i was just in one of these situations and i just told my wife i just wasn't as happy as i was and that i needed time to myself just to have fun and get away with no regrets and so she said ok and i have not gone back to her, in-fact she is in a relationship with another guy right now and so am i a well and my girlfriend now and myself are very happy and loving

I am not sure if you will receive this, but I really would like to know what has happened? I have a very similar story to you and I am in the place of regret etc.

u said that your man is a good man, then why did you have to have an affair outside the marriage?

hi. i could understand what you are going through and for those who dont understand that when children are involve it is tough to get out of the marriage. maybe they dont have kids so they could talk like that but try involving a kid in a compromise marriage it is tough especially if it is a girl child that favours their father. i grew up in the situation so i know.

U know what I so love u for this and I don't even know u.. but really ur rite neither one deserves any luck I mean come on ur married the first thing to me is honesty. And ur hurting kids I mean y make a vow that u can't keep and the poor soon to be heart broken people u know I have a passion for not liking people like this its sad to just lie to the one u love and u said before they start ******* I believe they already have I mean come on she said their in love!!!!!!!!

Yea, 'cause its always that black and white! Such a smug prick CoastalRat. Sometimes, people make a mistake in whom they marry and find out years down the road that it will never be the 'union of souls' some of us non-Aspergers aspire too. Then whaddya do? Suffer in silence for the remaining years of your life or be brave enough to confront a tough situation with compassion and resolve it. If you were getting a **** deal with your Insurance Company, would you put up with it on the basis you signed a contract when you were younger? No, you wouldnt! Stop being a smug twat

That all applies to ending a marriage -- not so much to having an affair.

If you were getting a **** deal with your insurance company, would you terminate the contract and look for a better deal, or just tell the insurance company that you had a freak hailstorm that destroyed your roof so they better pay for it, even if there was no hailstorm, because hey, it's a **** deal.