I appreciate all the adivice i have been given here. He wont be home for 4 1/2 more months. Also no i am not living on base, i am no where near any other marine wives, and i am just kind of floating around. You are all right- i DONT want to be a cheater. I have never been that type of person but i also have never been the type to get so bored and lonely when my other is gone. I am used to him being gone or being busy with his job; i thought i could handle it and its part of why we got married. I may be too young, age wise, but i have been through some situations in my life as well as with my husband that most older adults never even have to worry about. I love my husband very much. I do want to be a good wife and not a cheater. I just want to find a way to make myself better as a person right now. Do any of you suggest talk therapy, maybe to a counselor or someone unbias? My friends dont understand and honestly i have not told any of them about this event with another man because i dont want #1 my husband hearing something from someone else not me, and #2 i dont want them to have the wrong ideas about me as a person. I do have some things to do while my huband is away- school and i started a new job last week. Maybe that will help.
Of course. Therapy is always a good idea, for all the reasons Jespah mentioned.
As well, though, getting involved (volunteering, working, activities) will also help as it takes up your time and gets you thinking about something other than your situation.
If you volunteer, you are focussing on someone else's problems, not your own. This doesn't mean you bury your head in the sand, but it does take the focus and attention off Mr. X and your husband.
Try retirement homes, Food Banks, Salvation Army, etc. Go to your local hospital and see if you can do something there. There are many opportunities to volunteer and not only do you give something to others, you get something from it so everyone benefits.
If that doesn't appeal, get a job, or another one, so you're not obsessing about Mr. X. Put the issue aside and look at it in a week or so, having had no contact with him in the meantime.
Write out a list of what you love about your husband and your marriage and look at it several times a day. That may sound silly, but it might help you remember what you're doing and that you're a married lady for a reason.
Just some ideas.